Sam and Mark have been married for just over five years. So many experiences shared, so many ‘firsts’ continue. They’ve adjusted in their marriage. They’ve got to know each other much better. They know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and know how to work these to their mutual advantage. Their marriage and relationship are becoming so strong and solid with time goes by that I am pretty sure that they will definitely have to choose gifts for their 50th(golden) wedding anniversary from Golden Wedding This is their story:


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“I can’t believe we’re at our 5 year wedding anniversary already” says Sam “It feels like we’ve only just celebrated our 4th!”. Except in the last year Sam and Mark’s life has changed dramatically with the arrival of their son Boyce, named after Mark’s grandfather, who is now nine months old. “We’ve become stronger as a couple and most important as parents. I love who we are today.”

Mark agrees. “I’m grateful for what we have and who we are today as a family. We’ve had our down times, but the up times more than make up for those”. Mark was made redundant a month before Boyce was born which put pressure on them both. They coped by keeping in close contact with their family and friends and had the humility and wisdom to seek help from those able to give it. “I had to take time for myself with friends to sort out how I was going to provide for my family without Sam getting anxious.” says Mark. He continues “Our families have also been incredibly supportive throughout our marriage and I’m very grateful to have such a close relationship with them.”


As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words; small surprises can create a huge impact in your love life. Relationships flourish better if you prepare little romantic surprises for each other often. It doesn’t have to be an expensive or big occasion, but what counts’ is how your partner will think about you. Not only will you be closer, but it will bring them excitement and joy. A woman would do anything to make their man feel loved and cared for and since men love romantic surprises too, as a woman you don’t have to sit back and do nothing for him. Below are some ideas and ways of how you can surprise your partner.romantic

1. Take him to a sports match

You might not be a sporty person, but enjoying his likes won’t hurt. One way you can surprise your partner is by buying tickets to a match of his favorite sports. Always be on the lookout for upcoming sports events, which you can accompany him to. It could be a football or basketball match which will forever make him grateful to you. Both of you can wear matching sports jerseys of his team and get to the cheering and shouting together. If you want to rekindle an old flame, a little excitement will be a perfect way to do so. And also, it will strengthen the bond between you two. Look for a perfect way to either give/ deliver the sports match tickets. You can place them under his pillow, put them in his wallet or place it in his favorite book for him to find.

2. Get him some romantic giftsgolf_ball

One of the romantic gifts you can please your man with is the display golf ball and tee set. This is a genuine and unique tee and golf ball, which has been immersed in pure 24 karat gold. Although they are not intended to be used in a golf course, your man can display it among his treasures or trophies where everyone will see. You won’t have to think about a gift wrapper since they come wrapped in a black gift box ready to be given away.


In pondering whether to pursue an academic career, it all comes back to: Does anyone actually use research to make anyone else’s life any better? I’d rather not spend the rest of my career in a parlor game, even a parlor game with the goal of keeping myself employed.

So…. now i want to find “metaresearch”, research on the use of research. Actually i can see myself happily doing *that* sort of research. Thoughts?


Usually, caring about the broader context is a Good Thing. Sometimes, it’s a Bad Thing.

I spend a lot of time trying to relate fine-grained data and stimuli to the bigger picture. I really can’t help it. It’s how my brain works.

Having a brain that works this way is certainly supposed to be an advantage in any role that requires thinking strategically or about the long term. I suppose thinking this way makes for better cocktail party conversation, about the state of the world or the meaning of life or what-not. People probably perceive me as intelligent and thoughtful, although I can’t help wondering if they pity my lack of traditionally-defined accomplishment in my life.


From day to day, week to week, I have a lot of thoughts spilling out of my brain that I think are interesting enough to write down here for future reference. But I rarely remember what they are by the time I have the volition to actually type up blog entries.
In any event, the transition to mostly living and working in Memphis is going really well. After some early drama around the question of whether my landlord’s previous roommate was really going to clear out or not (some months after he stopped paying rent!), everything finally worked out. I love Mud Island — very upper-middle class, true, but also great for walking with beautiful views of the DeSoto (I-40) Bridge. I live somewhat off the left side of this view, on the Memphis side